jMy Definition of Friendship is, in short: Inducing Pleasure, Expelling Pain, and Developing Trust – Summed up in a Pleasing Costume.
Friendships’ definition may be subjective, but the general elements defining it are true of the majority’s meaning. An interesting recap of a few points below, is in the first category. The rest are personal impressions.
On Inverted Friendship.
- Finite respect, criticism, and thwarted praise, for most, kept the friendships alive!
- Warm smiles conveyed with love, and scathing looks concealed by overtly charmed ones, strengthened the bonds.
- Frame ill wishes with good feelings, effort-fully, towards fiend’s good fortune, happiness, and “good” taste – so long, they said that, that good was in their sight – such as those lovely dresses, on the right – and in their, grab’s reach! Not minding then, the effort.
- Validation of own opinions at the expulsion of the others’ (or Others, per say!). Learning how NOT to criticise. Such is the joy of compromising😲 What is life, if not a learning game. Effort, being the most crucial of all, as found above. Below, my personal ramblings on intervted frienships continue. Looking at aspects, otherwise not brought to the light or given a spot.
The Bathos of Friendship:
- Communicate your worth – in monitory value!
- Economical with your time – not your money, but their love!
- Butress your fall with a cream, Lily-made, Cranberry Log that was given last Christmas. But, this Xmas brought back. As, preemptive measure, to cushion the fall!
- Buy you Peruvian (Arabica) coffee, Green with envy – the colour of natural coffee beans prior to a good roasting!
- Fail to wake you up, to the aroma of that freshly brewed Peruvian (coffee) – Oh, my mornings, oh my days. How to start?!
- Fail to see they are your subordinate – I don’t mean an understudy, or, a clause!
- Fail to praise you – like they should – that’s what I mean!:-).
On this category it is hard to muster up any anything – “Period”! Except for the below referencing traits. They:
- Drink cold instant coffee with Soya milk out of an unwashed, stained, mug. YuK, not YuM!
- Constantly attempt to ‘out-connect you’, yet connect ‘nothing to nothing, on Margate Sands’. Bringing the body image as The Wasteland to mind – please decipher that, for me. Help!
- Have a sexual/ gender identity crises, orientated around you!
- Accuse you of blocking their sexual fluidity!
- Gender shifting. But, finding respite in androgyny when permanently unsure of which to be.
The Darn right Ugly:
- Who, hardly utilise friendship for gain.
- Who, need you, only sometimes.
- Who, bring you flowers, all the time.
- Who, fight your cause (only yours) unnecessarily, every time.
- Who persistently highlight your positive points, trashing humanity’s, by way of comparison.
- To whom you are perfect, or, likened to that home-made Cranberry, Lily Von Valley, Christmas log, raising its fluffy head, once more. And over which, they secretly salivate – Umm! As I had always suspected, frigging cannables!
Finally, the redefining note is, on which to end this revision, The Unforgivables who are above all, the most irredeemable category. They have, evidently, not yet, refined the art of drinking Coffee, and its appreciation. But there is hope in ‘yet’, and until then please hold back your Coffee cups!
For that reason, and from here on, my intent is such. After the New Year, and after all that Christmas merriment, cheer, romp and pomp to pass. Heeding, the kindness and forgiveness espoused by the benevolent Spirit of Christmas. Which, I wish and am careful not to disturb. And, only then, those Unforgivables must go – Ve directament de la la puerta de la salda de la cucina ! (Excuse my French). Or else change their Coffee habits .
In conclusion, the learning point is that we all have to put up with things, only for awhile.