A Brief Insight of Listening and ‘Advising’.
Are you noticing, that some listeners are generally oblivious of their designated roles, that they start advising instead of listening, while involuntarily transforming into the purveyors of knowledge, and you’re their specialty. Knowing you deeply, becomes their expertise, in their shifting role from listener to adviser. Providing a wealth of ‘dos’ and ‘don’ts, alongside advising, how best to address what they have conceived as your problem?
But, the unwillingness to be, if one dares to communicate it, the subject of their inherently fraught misperceptions would make them, most certainly, bring you to heel. And, I mean, aiming a super sexy, and fatal, nail-like, stiletto, at the vulnerabilities that you tend to escape at any cost.
The listeners, whether or not they realise, the boundaries of their roles, have a misconstrued view that they should be speaking at all, when that is not the requirement of listeners. Otherwise, they would have been called upon to speak, not listen – If this sounds a bit rigid, we are talking prescriptive terms and roles.
Listeners of this type, tend to have the greater knowledge, and better opinions, even when it’s about you. Telling you what to do, and how to do it . And, they know what is best for you, better than you! Continue reading “A Brief Insight of Communication:Effective Listening and Advising”